What to do to be an ideal husband & wife?
What to do to be an ideal husband?
Being an ideal husband is a continuous process of personal growth, learning, and improvement. While every relationship is unique, there are some essential qualities and habits that can help you be a better partner and build a fulfilling and lasting marriage. In this article, we will outline some tips and strategies on how to be an ideal husband and improve your relationship with your spouse.- Communication: Effective communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. As a husband, you need to be able to express your feelings, thoughts, and concerns to your partner clearly and respectfully. You should also be a good listener and take the time to understand your partner’s point of view. Communication is not just about talking, but it is also about active listening, empathy, and validation.
- Respect: Respect is essential in any relationship, and it goes both ways. You should respect your partner’s feelings, opinions, and choices, even if you don’t always agree with them. You should also treat your partner with kindness, courtesy, and consideration, and avoid disrespectful behaviors such as name-calling, belittling, or criticizing.
- Trust: Trust is the glue that holds any relationship together. You should be honest and transparent with your partner and avoid lying, hiding things, or keeping secrets. You should also be reliable and keep your promises, so your partner can trust you with their emotions and vulnerabilities.
- Love: Love is the foundation of any successful marriage. You should express your love for your partner through your words, actions, and behaviors. You should also show your affection, appreciation, and gratitude regularly, and make time for intimacy, physical touch, and romance.
- Empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and share your partner’s feelings and experiences. You should be able to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and see things from their perspective. You should also be able to validate your partner’s emotions, even if you don’t always agree with them.
- Support: Support is essential in any relationship, especially during challenging times. You should be there for your partner when they need you, whether it’s through emotional support, practical help, or just being a good listener. You should also encourage your partner to pursue their goals, dreams, and passions, and be their cheerleader and supporter.
- Responsibility: Responsibility means taking ownership of your actions and behaviors and being accountable for them. You should take responsibility for your mistakes, apologize when you’re wrong, and make amends when necessary. You should also be responsible for your share of the household chores, childcare, and other domestic duties, and contribute to the relationship in meaningful ways.
- Growth: Growth is essential in any relationship, and it requires ongoing personal development and learning. You should be open to feedback, criticism, and constructive criticism, and use it to improve yourself and your relationship. You should also be willing to learn new skills, explore new interests, and evolve as a person.
- Humor: Humor is a great way to lighten up any situation and bring joy and laughter into your relationship. You should have a good sense of humor and be able to laugh at yourself and your mistakes. You should also be able to share your partner’s sense of humor and make them laugh when they need it.
- Time: Time is a precious commodity, and you should make time for your partner and your relationship. You should prioritize your marriage and spend quality time together, whether it’s through date nights, shared hobbies, or simply spending time talking and listening to each other. You should also be willing to compromise, negotiate, and find a balance between your individual needs and your shared goals.
What to do to be an ideal wife ?
Being an ideal wife is not about perfection but about making a conscious effort to grow, learn and improve as a partner. Being a great wife means supporting, loving, and cherishing your spouse through thick and thin. Here are ten tips that can help you be the best wife possible:- Communication: Communication is key in any relationship, and it’s especially important in marriage. You need to be able to express your feelings, thoughts, and concerns to your spouse in a clear and respectful manner. You should also be a good listener and take the time to understand your spouse’s point of view.
- Respect: Respect is an essential element in any healthy relationship. You should respect your spouse’s opinions, feelings, and choices, even if you don’t always agree with them. You should also treat your spouse with kindness, courtesy, and consideration and avoid belittling or criticizing them.
- Trust: Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage. You should be honest and transparent with your spouse and avoid lying, keeping secrets or hiding things. You should also be reliable and keep your promises so your spouse can trust you with their emotions and vulnerabilities.
- Love: Love is the cornerstone of any successful marriage. You should express your love for your spouse through your words, actions, and behaviors. You should also show your affection, appreciation, and gratitude regularly, and make time for intimacy, physical touch, and romance.
- Empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and share your spouse’s feelings and experiences. You should be able to put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and see things from their perspective. You should also be able to validate your spouse’s emotions, even if you don’t always agree with them.
- Support: Support is critical in any relationship, particularly during tough times. You should be there for your spouse when they need you, whether it’s through emotional support, practical help, or just being a good listener. You should also encourage your spouse to pursue their goals, dreams, and passions, and be their cheerleader and supporter.
- Responsibility: Responsibility means taking ownership of your actions and behaviors and being accountable for them. You should take responsibility for your mistakes, apologize when you’re wrong, and make amends when necessary. You should also be responsible for your share of the household chores, childcare, and other domestic duties, and contribute to the relationship in meaningful ways.
- Growth: Growth is essential in any relationship, and it requires ongoing personal development and learning. You should be open to feedback, criticism, and constructive criticism and use it to improve yourself and your relationship. You should also be willing to learn new skills, explore new interests, and evolve as a person.
- Humor: Humor is a great way to lighten up any situation and bring joy and laughter into your relationship. You should have a good sense of humor and be able to laugh at yourself and your mistakes. You should also be able to share your spouse’s sense of humor and make them laugh when they need it.
- Time: Time is a valuable commodity, and you should make time for your spouse and your relationship. You should prioritize your marriage and spend quality time together, whether it’s through date nights, shared hobbies, or simply spending time talking and listening to each other. You should also be willing to compromise, negotiate, and find a balance between your individual needs and your shared goals.
I am a Muslim
Islam is the religion of creation. Mountains, gutters, aqueducts, swell, abysses, globes, stars, creatures, everything in this world, indeed our branches, are all Muslim, and there’s no way to be Muslim. That is, in the state of nature, everyone is adhering God’s laws. Only man has another reality which is called moral reality, i.e. good- wrong, right- wrong, sense- perception and that’s why man is superior. In addition to mortal heart, books and couriers have been given which haven’t been given to any other creation. Everyone is subject to God’s rules. Allah has only given humans the capability to use all of Allah’s creations and our organs. These creations can be used for good and badpurposes.However, also the earth and other creations and the hands, bases, If it’s defiant to Allah or used in evil deeds.
Allah has given his stylish creation to man with heart; Because of which the heart rebukes evil deeds. Along with heart, the Prophet and the Messenger gave gifts. Adam was a prophet along with being the first man. All the Prophets and their followers were Muslims. Muslim means biddable i.e.- Those who observe Allah’s law are Muslims( biddable) and those who defy are Kafir( disobedient). We identify ourselves as’ Muslims’ which means- we’re pious to Allah and this Muslim name is from Allah Rabbul Alamin himself. His words,’ Be established on the ideals of your father Ibrahim. Allah named you’ Muslim’ ahead and in this Book, so that this Messenger may be a substantiation against you and you may be a substantiation against humanity'( Surah Hajj- 78).
Hazrat Ibrahim( AS) supplicated to Allah with his son Ismail( AS), “ O our Lord! Make both of us’ Muslim'( amenable) to You, and make of our get a’ Muslim Ummah'( amenable nation) to You”( Surah Baqarah- 128). Jews, Christians and Muslims are all descendants of Abraham. But Allah Almighty presented Ibrahima.s. in this way-‘ Ibrahim was neither a Jew, nor a Christian( Christian); Rather, he was a devout Muslim. And he wasn’t of the polytheists'( Surah Al- Imran- 67). In all cases tone- identification is given as,’ Say, My prayer, my immolation, my life and my death are for Allah Rabbul Alamin. He has no mates. This is what I’ve been commanded and I’m the first Muslim'( SurahAn’am 162- 163).
All the Prophets and their followers linked themselves as Muslims. In this environment, Allah says,’ also when Jesus felt unbelief from them, he said to them,” Who’ll be my aides in the way of Allah?” also the apostles said, We’ll be aides in the way of Allah. We believe in Allah. You bear substantiation that we’re Muslims( handovers)'( Surah Ale Imran- 52). He also said,” Who can speak better than the person who calls people to Allah and makes himself righteous in deeds and says, surely I’m a Muslim( pious to Allah)”( Surah Hamim As Sajdah- 33).
Allah has advised not to return to Him without getting a Muslim. His words- O people of faith! Fear Allah as you sweat Him and don’t die without getting Muslims'( Surah Ale Imran- 102). At the same time, he promised paradise to his pious( Muslim) retainers. His words-‘ Those who believed in my verses and came Muslims, on that day it’ll be said to them, O my retainers, moment you have no fear and no anguish will touch you moment. Enter Paradise with your misters and women
rejoicing'( Surah Az- Zukhruf 68- 70).
The people of faith have only one prayer- that they die in a Muslim state. After the faith of the magicians, Pharaoh said, I’ll cut off your hands and bases from the contrary side. Give us strength to persist and grant us death as Muslims'( SurahA’raf- 126). Yusuf’s prayer was-‘ You’re my protection in this life and in the hereafter! Give me death as a Muslim and make me a companion of righteous people'( Surah Yusuf- 101).
Then are some quotations from the Quran out of multitudinous verses on naming as Muslim, giving Muslim identity, hanging to die as anon-Muslim, wishing to die as a Muslim, giving good news to Muslims etc. principally Allah has called His blessed retainers as Muslims and this is our identity. There’s no identity other than this. Differences and divisions among us are all tricks of the devil.
Unfortunately, moment we’re no longer proud of our Muslim identity. We now identify Shia- Sunni, Ahle Quran, Ahle Hadith, Hanafi, Maleki,Shafi’i, Hanbali, Ahle Sunnat wal Jamaat, how numerous further? Is it just that? Indeed the kirks
have been separated. Let’s suppose a little, what about our division? There’s no difference between us in Farj- Wajib. The difference is about Sunnah- Mustahab. The difference between Mustahab ages was in the period of the Prophet himself. Salat is the base of concinnity of Ummah. Allah’s words-” If they rue, establish prayer and pay zakat, also they’re your religious sisters”( Surah Tawba- 11). A person who repents and observes the two introductory acts of deification, Salat and Zakat, will enjoy all the social and legal rights of other Muslims in an Islamic society.
The biggest assignment in Salah is collective concinnity and brotherhood among Muslims. By coming to the synagogue and soliciting behind the imam for five times, it proves that there’s discipline, fidelity and brotherhood among them. There’s no fault in the muqtadi in Salah, the fault is only if there’s any divagation in the obedience of the imam. Imam may also be wrong. What’s the tolerable position of that mistake? If there’s a mistake in the obligatory prayer, the prayer must be performedagain.However, the Imam Sahib’s attention should be drawn and corrected through Sahu Sajda, If the Wajib is rushed. After that, the error of Sunnah- Mustahab isn’t so serious, that is, the prayer will come. But all the controversies are about the Sunnah- Mustahab and it’s among the Salatites. There’s nothing wrong with idleness and there’s no bickering between them. Doing those deeds that are divided or dissented with will admit the price of a great sunnah; But body and schism will be the sin of Kufr.